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The Friendzone

The breaker of all hearts, the doomed F-word and the ultimate verbatim of how the rest of your romantic life will pan out. Or is it really?

I’ve been doing a of thinking about the friendzone and I have a theory that it might not be as bad as people make it out to be

First of all, let’s define the F-word

According to Urban Dictionary the Friendzone is defined as the following:

This is the worst position someone can be in, if they have feelings for someone. When a person develops romantic feelings for someone, but the other person only sees the relationship as just being friends

I think this is in fact not the worst position a person can be in. Quick disclaimer but I have been in the friendzone in the past so I’m not coming from a completely ambiguous position.

I have a feeling that if someone does not reciprocate your feelings maybe it’s because they’re not supposed to?

From a completely optimistic point of view, maybe the universe knows more than it lets on and in factt knows that this person is not right for you as more than a friend.

While it might seem like the world is ending and that you’ll never be able to continue be friends, trust me, you will.

Because your amazing, perfect, beautiful self would have moved on and hey, guess what you’re left with? a great friend!

Imagine if you never took the time to be friends with them in the first place and asked them out instantly? you wouldn’t even have had a chance to add a friend onto your list. It’s either all or nothing

But with the friendzone, at least you get a friend out of it and who knows what time will bring about?

This is a fun little post I’ve been meaning to write for a while. Hope you enjoyed!

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LAW SCHOOL ! A Horror Story

I don’t belong here 

Why did i ever think coming into law school was a good idea 

I’m half as tall as everyone else and twice as shy. I’m not bold or upfront or extroverted. 

These thoughts mill around my head as I travel from lecture to lecture, understanding the contents but never quite grasping where I fit into all these masses of future lawyers.

I run short of breath and feel an engulfing sense of paranoia and something resembling a panic attack as I attend court for the first time. The buildings and surroundings are inevitably foreign. But it’s the people that riffle me the most.

Intimidating, aged, men in suits and wheely suitcases glide past me, not paying any heed to the amateur human who might as well be another journalist.

I can’t even make it through my first hearing as I bolt outside the room before the judge enters and the proceedings begin.

My second hearing is not so bad. Once again I’m intimidated by the masses of suits and official language which takes me a while to get used to.

I can’t help thinking that one day, very soon, I’m going to be the one in that suit and I will most likely be up against a person who is much more experienced and much less intimidated than me.

But you know what? I’ve made it this far and I’ll make it further because I’ve always known I’d make one hell of a lawyer and it’s time to put that in motion right now.


That was my two-cents worth regarding the first two weeks of law school. I hope you guys liked the creative twist I tried!

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10 Habits That Will Change Your Life

In life, it is not uncommon to undergo phases where you’re under immense stress. Some people experience stress everyday through work or looking after your families.

With this being my last year of high school and finals fast approaching, I’ve found that stress has become my best friend. However, surprisingly I’ve discovered that I am not going crazy.

See usually I’m the type to bawl or snap or destroy the world around me when under stress but by ingraining these practices in my lifestyle, I’ve found stress to be a manageable and even motivational phenomena.

Pamper Yourself 

Self-care is the best form of investment you’ll ever make.

Having a hectic week? take time out to put on a face mask for 10 minutes or if you’ve got more time watch an episode of your favourite TV show. Treat yourself for once.

Exercise 

I know. Every guru and their mother preaches this but I personally have found this to be so de-stressing. To be completely honest, I don’t lift weights or do 25 kilometers runs.

Exercise can come in the form of walking instead of catching the bus or riding a bike or simply taking a 10 minute stretch.

Hydrate 

Did you know water is miraculous? it even keeps us alive.

But seriously, water is the best refreshment. Whether it is drinking water or splashing some on your face, it’s like an instant burst of energy!

Eat 

I know workaholics or simple lazy people who skip meals purely because they believe that to be a productive way. Being hungry makes you lethargic and low on energy which means your tasks won’t be accomplished to the best of their ability.

Nuts, fruits, chocolate bars, vegetables, chips, as long as you eat everything in moderation and eat regularly, there is no reason to worry

Organise 

What goes on inside you is highly dependent on what goes on outside you. A messy desk, unwashed clothing on the floor and empty of mugs of tea will inevitably leave you feeling cranky and stressed.

Take time out to organise and de-clutter. You won’t regret it

Meditate 

Another guru preaching! Again I agree with the gurus that meditating is in fact, life changing. Our bodies were not designed to handle the chaos of the world we live in today. Ten minutes before going to bed, make a decision to meditate.

I recommend the phone app Calm which has super helpful guided meditations

Take regular breaks 

With studying and work, it can be easy to lose yourself and be tempted to just power through.  Do remember though that this isn’t healthy or productive.

Taking regular breaks such as listening to music, going for a walk, or chilling on your phone means you come back to work refreshed and even more energized to demolish all your tasks

Collect your thoughts 

This is in line with meditation. Basically when you’re on the bus or in the car, just anywhere that you’re alone with your thoughts, just breath and try to concentrate on your surroundings.

You’ll find that this makes it easier for your mind to catalog your thoughts and you’re more focused with your tasks for the day

Socialise 

You will not believe the miraculous power of surrounding yourself with good energy. After all, what goes on inside is dependent on what goes on outside.

Whether it’s your best friend, your parents, your co-worker- have a conversation. Just talking aimlessly can be therapeutic.

Make your goals really obvious 

Basically remind yourself of why you’re doing this job or this exam. I like to put sticky notes on my wall with my goals on it which means they’re always in my sight and I don’t lose motivation.

Because you’re marking that territory, you’re telling the universe: This goal is mine and I am going to achieve it

Hopefully this helped! Let me know whether you’d like to see similar posts in the future 🙂

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5 Tips On Writing A Kick-Ass Blog Post

The key to having a successful blog lies in creating appealing content, right?

After all, that is what makes people hit that ‘follow’ button and ultimately a Kick-Ass blog post is what will make people want more and keep coming back.

As a result of a few agony aunts I’ve received about blogging and advice on blogging and also because I totally consider myself a professional in this field I’ve decided to give some advice on what consists of a good blog post.

1] Plan

ALWAYS ALWAYS have a plan. I mean sure it’s good to be impulsive and spontaneous with your content sometimes however, quality content comes out when you have a basic plan or a general outline of where you’re heading.

Planning is as simple as jotting down things in your notebook or as complex as scheduling your posts for the next two months. Whatever floats your boat and whatever calls for the situation.

Just remember, people will appreciate you having put some thought into your post before hitting that ‘publish’ button.

2] Keep It To The Point

This is pretty self explanatory but say for example, you were writing a review post about the book Pride & Prejudice, as tempting as it might be, don’t go off topic and write two meaningless paragraphs about how hot Mr. Darcy is (meaningless as in meaningless to the post, I’m not attacking your feelings okay). Keep it to the point, what did you like about the book? what did you not like? why?

Having a purpose in mind and reminding yourself of this purpose as you write the post will help you from wandering off. In the case of my example the purpose would be to inform people about your views on Pride & Prejudice.

3] Less is More

Having a post that is straight to the point and minimal wandering off topic will ensure this. Here’s the truth, NO ONE has time to read six long paragraphs about your thoughts on Pride & Prejudice okay. Come to think of it, it doesn’t look appealing either.

First impressions are everything. In a short amount of time you have the task of grabbing the reader’s attention, keeping it and ideally by the end making them wanting more.

Use dot points, Use a few pictures, avoid clutter.

A neat, tidy blog post never hurt anybody.

4] Format

This ties in with the last tip.

FORMATTING IS EVERYTHING. Not really but.

Present your blog post in a neat fashion by avoiding huge chunks of information or like ten consecutive GIFs.

As I said before:

  • Dot Points
  • Pictures/GIFs
  • Highlighting important points by making them bold or italic
  • Using appealing colours

Which reminds me, it is HIGHLY IMPORTANT that your blog is easy on the eyes, I mean white writing on a neon green background? hurts to even think

5] Proof-Read

PLEASE PLEASE proof read. I personally cannot stand spelling errors. I mean blogging is about self-expression so it’s okay to skip punctuation altogether however, all I ask is you don’t butcher the words.

Proof-reading also ensures you’re getting your point across correctly, which is important.

I hope that helps and that now we’ll all be writing kick-ass blog posts!

Let me know if you’d like more blog posts providing advice

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Blogger Recognition Award

Thank you so much to The Lit Mermaid for a Blogger Recognition Award nomination! You’re the best!

Rules:

  • Select 15 other blogs you want to give the award to. Do some digging if you must! Find those blogs. You cannot nominate yourself or the person who has nominated you.
  • Write a post to show off your award! Give a brief story of how your blog got started, and give a piece or two of advice to new bloggers. Thank whoever nominated you, and provide a link to their blog. List who you’ve nominated in the post.
    • Make sure to also attach the award itself! (You can do this by right-clicking, saving, and uploading the image above).
  • Comment on each blog and let them know you’ve nominated them. Provide a link to the award post you created.
  • Provide a link to the original post on Edge of Night. That way, anyone can find the original guidelines and post if needed, and we can keep it from mutating and becoming confusing! (It happens LOL)

How my blog started

I vaguely recall wanting a space to record my thoughts on books so I somehow stumbled upon WordPress (it was fate) and created a blog.  At the time I was obsessed with the idea of infinity and my best friend’s favourite band was Infinite (KPOP fans anyone?) so hence, Infinity Reads. I remember losing interest in the first month or so then I noticed people were actually reading and commenting on my stuff so that kept me going and here we are!

Probably not the most exciting/inspirational blogging story you’ve ever heard but yeah.

Advice for new bloggers

I’ve been blogging for about a year and a half now which in my opinion isn’t that long but the three pieces of advice I would have to give new bloggers are:

1. Don’t Give Up

The MOST important thing about blogging is commitment and perseverance. You’ve got to have patience, the people and the recognition, the fun, everything will come in due time. Remember, focus on the light at the end of the tunnel

2. Be Passionate About Your Content

There’s no point in blogging about makeup if it doesn’t excite you. Create the kind of content that gives you satisfaction, that makes you want to keep creating MORE and also, create content that you’d want to read yourself. In saying that, stay true to yourself and your blog but try to balance your audience’s needs at the same time.

3. Be Yourself

Okay in the initial stages it’s okay to be (highly) inspired by other blogs but as you go along try adding your own personality and your uniqueness to your blog, trust me it goes a long way. People will always appreciate you showing them your quirky side, it means you’re a real person.


 

I can usually never be bothered nominating people (laziness you see). But here’s a list I compiled!

Faith @Fangirl World (always)

Panda 

Safa @ Books over people

Janelle @A million pages, a million worlds

Rochelle @Inside my worlds

thewritinghufflepuff

Kacie @Kacies Bookshelf 

Shannonpaigewaters

Chanice @Inside the mind of a bibliophile 

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