Recently. I’ve noticed that the best friend has started saying this particular line to me quite often:
“It’s not like that. You read too many books. Gosh”
This is usually in reply to my random perspectives on life.
Which got me thinking. What if the books I read have started influencing me? I mean what if they’ve warped my perspective about something?
Now of course, considering I read so many books it’s a given that they’d influence me in some way or another. But what if they’ve started affecting my take on life, like majorly?
Let’s take love for example, literally every fictional novel I have ever read has some kind of romance in it. And I’ve noticed that, particularly in YA, love is this huge philosophical thing, it’s exaggerated really but being a teenager and being easily impressionable, I see it as this huge powerful event that’s gonna knock the wind out of me and the universe will collapse unto itself or something.
So has my reading resulted in me forming unrealistic expectations of love? Have I formed an idea that true love looks like Augustus and Hazel or Anna and Etienne?
That’s the other thing about YA, it sets this unrealistic bar for what boys should be like. I mean, let’s be honest, we’re all looking for an Augutus Waters or Chaol Westfall to stride in and sweep us off our feet.
I’m not trying to single out YA as the culprit of unrealistic expectations, I mean everything from TV to Disney Movies to Instagram has us forming unrealistic expectations about everything, not just love.
I guess at the end of the day, we have to remember that, that particular representation of love in the novel is the author’s idea and experience.
And the best way is to just not be so gullible,get out there and discover your own idea of love or anything really through experience.
Apologies if this post was a bit vague or sounded too much like an “inner ramblings of a teenager” rather than a bookish discussion. But yeah it’s been plaguing me
Do you think books set unrealistic expectation?